There are many parents who wonder why your children do not want to study. It is not easy to answer this question and the solution is not usually the same for all cases. Each child develops at a different rate; In this way, each child has different characteristics. To this is added that children grow up in different environments where the family, their peers (other children) and teachers also influence their behavior.
Therefore, the reasons why the child does not want to study can be numerous. Between them:
1. Learning disability
Some youngsters may have trouble learning or retaining information so they can keep up with the class. This may be due to attention problems.
2. Difficulties in the subject
Other times there may be difficulties without the need for the child to have developmental problems. You may not understand the subject matter of some subjects and this makes your study difficult.
3. Low self-esteem
Frustration and insecurities appear on the scene. Not understanding what has to be studied and seeing that others do it can lead the child to feel inferior and his way of dealing with it by not having the appropriate 'tools' is to show a lack of interest.
4. Family problems
When something happens at home, children are very affected. Violence is witnessed, there is a harsh separation, there is some illness, etc. They are factors that affect school results since children have a 'sensitivity' that lets them know when things in their environment are not going well.
5. Suffering from bullying
Bullying is an increasingly common phenomenon in schools. This type of bullying and violent situations causes the child to suffer emotional problems such as sadness or fear. These types of emotions make it difficult for the little one to focus his attention on studying.
6. Lack of motivation
And finally, the most common reason why children do not want to study. If they are not motivated to learn, they will not make the effort to do so. And that is usually the problem. The little ones see the study as something that is boring. So what role do adults play in making this happen?
Most of the time, the little ones refuse to study because it is an activity that is considered boring. Therefore, the opposite is needed to get children motivated.
From a young age, children show interest and amazement for learning. The problem comes from the responses they receive from their environment. From the family and at school, the child's learning should be considered as something that makes the little ones question things, that they see beyond the object, they consider how things work.
The objective will be make children see that learning is positive and exciting. To do this there are infinite techniques. Among them, we consider it important:
- Reward effort
We must emphasize the moments in which he makes an effort and begins to study or do his homework. On the contrary, you have to put aside the punishments and the fights when it does not. That is, use positive reinforcement.
- Involvement in their 'things'
Parents should be interested in their classes, exams, etc. But be careful, being interested is not being more aware of their things than themselves. Parents are a support, not their children's secretaries.
- Real expectations
Parents should show their children that they have expectations of them but that they are real. That is, they set objectives that are achievable. Going towards these goals will motivate the children each time.
It is not very appropriate to force children to study. What is best is that there is a balance so that the desire to learn grows in children. Therefore it is important that children can enjoy:
- Boredom.It encourages their curiosity and helps the development of their creativity and imagination.
- Of sport.It will help you release the stress that accumulates throughout the school day. It will be good to later be able to continue with the study from home.
- From your friends.Connecting with peers will be good for your social relationships and free from stress.
It is also important that adults do not play a role that does not correspond to them, such as:
- Doing homework for children and solving problems for your children. You have to let them do it themselves.
- Do not force learning. Let children go through assignments and tasks at their own developmental pace.
- Do not abuse positive reinforcement and reward. In other words, to reward you do not have to base reinforcement on a material reward but on praise. Make the child's motivation to study intrinsic.
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