Sadness is a basic emotion, like fear or anger. We can all feel sad at some point in our life and in the same way, the little ones can also feel this way. The causes of sadness in children They can be many and varied, as in adults, the difference is that in many cases the little ones do not know how to identify and manage their emotions. How can we help you?
Parents do not want to see our children sad and we try to avoid that feeling, but not only is it not possible to rid them of this emotionIt is not recommended. We cannot protect them from everything or make them have only pleasant and happy experiences. Sadness is a basic emotion and the important thing is not to avoid it, but to give the little ones the tools so that they know how to cope with it.
We must bear in mind that what saddens us adults is not always the same as saddens children. They may feel sad because their friend changes schools, because they have not let him play in the yard, because an exercise has not gone well, because he has got a bad grade, because one of the parents is going on a trip or because of a long etcetera of situations. The important thing is not so much the cause, but the help we give them.
To do this, the most important thing is to learn to recognize that our child is sad. Children can express sadness in many ways:
1. They cry about almost everything and are down.
2. They have no desire for almost anything.
3. They are upset and angry to the minimum.
4. They sleep poorly.
5. They are less talkative.
Once we have identified that our child may be sad, it is time to help him manage this feeling.
1 - Try to normalize this feeling
When it comes to talking about sadness with our children, it is important to normalize it, to make them see that we are all sad at some point. You can explain to them that it is not pleasant to feel, but that it is not bad and that, therefore, it should not be avoided. You have to help them to identify this feeling, like the rest of emotions, and to know how to express it, so talking with them is essential. Let them know that they can tell us what is happening to them, what worries them and in this case, what saddens them.
2 - Make him share your emotions
Parents can be a good example when it comes to teaching children to deal with emotions, so it is good that we also make them share in ours and that we do not hide when we feel angry, sad, worried or happy.
3 - Don't downplay their feelings
To help children express and manage their emotions it will be very important that we do not downplay how they feel, or scold them, or punish them. We must respect how they feel without judging that their reasons are more or less important. Let's avoid phrases like, "come on if that's nothing" or "don't cry it hasn't been that long", etc.
4 - Help him understand what sadness is
On the contrary, we must be by his side, make it easier for him to express himself, help him identify how he feels and what has happened so that he feels that way. In turn we have to help him find a solution to what makes us sad or make him see the good in the situation.
We cannot prevent children from feeling, so they must be taught from a young age to know their emotions. We must be by their side to give them clues on how they can manage their feelings, instead of avoiding any situation that makes them suffer. The emotions are there and you have to know how to face them and live them intelligently.
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